Thursday, December 30, 2010
So, I am going to be doing weekly appointment for about the next ten weeks, working with Jennifer to balance my body be releasing heat through accupuncture, staying away from hot foods, and taking herbs. I cannot say that I have seen results yet, but it has been an odd week with Christmas, traveling, lots of food, and down-time at work. Hopefully will start seeing results starting Monday when diet, excercise and schedule are all back on track.
In the meantime, yesterday's appointment was very good. Had about 25 needles in various points on my body and I once again felt waves of coldness rushing over my body and setting off little "zaps" in a few of the needle spots. Felt very cool after the appointment. Additionally - since I have a sinus infection - she was even able to "customize" the appointment to include some points to release pressure on my sinsus - and they felt so much more OPEN afterwards, it was great!
When I was done with my 12 minutes on my back, she removed all the needles and I turned over on my stomach and she did one final needle prick (enough to draw blood) at top of my spine near the neck. She then lit a flame in a round glass suction cup and applied it to the spot, therefore drawing the skin and blood out and reliving pressure in the space. It felt very odd, but there was also a sensation of release from that area. We'll see what the results are!
Thinking I should take photos to see week to week what the results are.
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Over the Christmas weekend I indulged in two great movies, The King's Speech in theater, and Easy A on a flight back from Seattle (I had already seen it in theaters, but it was just a pleasurable the second time).
The Kings Speech:
Oscar. Oscar Oscar Oscar. That about sums it up. One for Colin Firth, one for Helena Bonham Carter, and another for Geoffrey Rush. Not to mention others like movie, director, cinematography, costume, and many others. I still have to see two movies from the best picture list, so I am not going to pass final judgment (yet) on winners, but this movie was just crawling with them.
The story centers on the unexpected ascension to the thrown of King George VI of Great Britain and his work with an unorthodox speech therapist to overcome his stutter. After his father's death and his brother's abdication, Bertie takes the thrown and must prepare and lead his people for the coming war. The relationship between Firth and Rush is incredible! They have more spark and chemistry than most romantic comedy couples!
Overall, the movie was incredible. Well done from every respect. Funny at parts, somber at others. Well acted by all. And simply beautiful shot and edited. A tour de force.
Switching gears just a bit, we go from trouble with pubic speaking to the problem with speaking in public about things you don't always want the world to know: Easy A.
Emma Stone as Olive is hilarious and definitely deserves her Golden Globe nod for comedy actress. The movie centers on the rumors and gossip that spread about her supposed sex life - all started by one little white lie that snowballs into a whole lot of lies (and Target gift cards) and leads to a certain reputation. The film is one of the best chick-flick/teen comedies/lite-hearted movies I have seen in a long time. Probably since about Ten Things I Hate About You.
What I really enjoyed about Easy A - besides Stone's acting, the great story, and fab direction - was the hints and references to the great movies of the 80's, particularly those of John Hughes. Particularly love the montage of movie clips from Sixteen Candles, Breakfast Club, Can't Buy Me Love and Ferris Bueller. That is classic - and every girls dream. "But no, John Hughes did not direct my life." So true. So very true.
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
So, after recently hearing someone rave about acupuncture and the great results they saw, I decided to go ahead and give it a try. What have I got to lose? Besides $130 I mean ...
Today was appointment #1. Started out in the typical fashion of all such appointments - a general consultation with lots of questions about diet, symptoms, sleep and a whole lot of other things. I hate that part of any diagnoses - awkward. Soon though she had figured out that I was a bit jaded about all things acne-cure related and she started talking to me a bit more straight-forward and we were able to have a nice open discussion. After the consultation came the first of ten or so weekly appointments to get my acne under control. Based on her diagnosis, my body has too much heat and not enough water. The heat combined with the function/location of my lungs, liver and spleen all act to give me acne. My treatment includes about 20 needles inserted into important points in my lower legs and feet, arms and hands and forehead that are supposed to help release the heat from the body. She mentioned that when the needles are inserted you can get a rush of emotion ... and I DID! I could not decide if I should cry or laugh, so I actually did both! It was a very odd sensation. Over the next 12 minutes I tried to relax my body (somewhat successfully). At one point I felt a chill run through my body and then started to notice that I was really cooling off, soon my hands and feet were even tingly with cold!
So that was appointment number one. All in all ... a good experience. Will see where I am in 3 or 4 appointments before passing judgment on this approach's effectiveness.
Monday, December 20, 2010
Today was one of those rare days where I partook in MN sports. With a slight weather delay we finally made it to St. Paul. Game itself was good - we won 4-1, but the real fun was the people watching and excitement. Oh ... and the food! Hot dogs, nachos, and beer! Yum ... bring on the junk food!
Then we waited 30 minutes to get out of the parking ramp, came home and watched a recap of the Vikings game. I really have no interest, but even I think that is pretty cool to see them play outdoors on a snowy night.
While there, I snapped this photo of a family out enjoying a day at the Mall. Not to offend any Midwesterners, but do you really need to do this? Why are you wearing your (ridiculously overpriced) jerseys out to the mall. Really? Really? I particularly liked the women in the family with their jerseys and mismatched handbags slung elegantly in the crook of their arms. How perfectly tasteful. And the sweatpants just totally MAKE the outfit.
That's my rant for the day ...
Sunday, December 19, 2010
If you live in Minneapolis - or Minnesota for that matter - you know that we have had A LOT of snow recently. It is not even winter officially and we have at least three big snow storms with large amounts of accumulating snow. Four lane streets are down to two, street parking is a nightmare, side view mirrors litter the roads, and snow is piled up along the roads as tall as my car! One of these big storms was actually last weekend and most places closed and everyone was snowed in, cutting out a very important Christmas shopping opportunity. So, it seemed like everyone doubled their efforts this weekend and hit the roads and the malls. And really, people just start acting stupid on the road. Come on ... drive!
First stop was Target to pickup milk. That only took 20 minutes. Grrrr. Stores like Target should really have a special lane for express non-Christmas related purchases like milk. And it cannot be the current express lanes, because that is just crowded with Christmas shopping. Well, finally made it out and to the movie theater for Black Swan.
Let me start by saying that this movie is incredible and deserves all the hype that it is getting. With that being said, let me also say that this movie is not for everyone. It is slow going, with lots of ballet sequences, a bit of a Mommy Dearest feeling, and unique cinematography. This all makes for an excellent movie, but not a movie that all can enjoy. Especially NOT a movie for the group of four guys who sat in the row in front of me who spent the movie text messaging and did not really take any interest until the make-out scene between Nina and Lily. Then they paid attention. I would bet that was why they came to see the movie to begin with.
The movie focuses on the life of Nina (Natalie Portman) and her ballet career in a NYC ballet company. She lives with her mother - a once upon a time ballerina - who now lives vicariously through her daughter and treats her like a child. When Swan Lake gets cast, Nina gets the part of of the Swan Queen. She is a perfect fit as the pure White Swan but lacks the darkness and sensuality of the Black Swan. A new company member - Lily - is the embodiment of the Black Swan. A twisted friendship develops between the two as Nina struggles with her real self - the White Swan - and the hidden Black Swan within. The psychological thriller climaxes with the anticipated production where all comes to a head.
Two thumbs up, but not for everyone.
The Nutcracker Fantasy
After watching a movie on the world of ballet, I went home and changed for the actual ballet at the State Theater. The Nutcracker Fantasy. Excellent performance by all. The children did extremely well too, which is not always the case. But I do not really come to watch them, I come to be mesmerized by the ballerinas in the second and third act. By the snow flakes and the compliment of dancers from around the world who come to honor the little the girl. I love watching their feet as they come up on pointe, watching their arms rise and fall gracefully, watching their tutus flutter. They are just so graceful and beautiful.
However, it was rather difficult to focus at the beginning when the people in front of me were being so distracting. Three women on the end plus about 10 kids sitting on their right. The three women were on their phones for the first 20 minutes. Not just sending a quick emergency text, no, they were looking through their Facebook wall, just scrolling through there. At one point, one of the women actually put her phone to her email as though she was going to make a call or listen to VM. That was the end of the line for me, I actually leaned over and told them to please turn off their phones as it was distracting. Not to mention that talking kids who felt the need to stand up. Thank goodness there were some empty seats a few rows forward so I moved at intermission.
So, to summarize a few notes on proper theater etiquette, whether movie, theater, ballet ... whatever.
- Cellphones should be off. Not just volume, but no texting or checking VM or scrolling through FB wall updates. The glow is very annoying, distracting and disrespectful.
- Kids should be told what is and is not appropriate behavior. Be respectful of your fellow patrons.
- There exists a coat check ... use it. Do not take up half my seat with your giant puffy coat.
- Do not leave before the curtain call, that is very disrespectful to the performers.
Give me a good Audrey Hepburn flick any night. Charade is a great one - the story of a woman in Paris whose husband is murdered and a large sum of money goes missing. A number of oddball characters are out to get here thinking she has the money. Cary Grant helps her through all of this, changing his name every 15 minutes and making her fall in love with him in between. All in all - a very charming movie! Interesting fact - Grant was 59 when he did this movie, Hepburn only 33. He did not want to take the role at first thinking his character was preying too much on the younger female role. In order to get him on board, the script was switched so that all the aggressive lines went to Hepburn.
A few of my favorite quotes:
Reggie Lampert: I already know an awful lot of people and until one of them dies I couldn't possibly meet anyone else.
Peter Joshua: Well, if anyone goes on the critical list, let me know.
Adam Canfield: Wow, when you come on, you come on, don't you?
Reggie Lampert: Oh, come on!
Adam Canfield: We didn't steal it, there's no law against stealing stolen money.
Reggie Lampert: Of course there is!
Adam Canfield: There is?
Reggie Lampert: Yes!
Adam Canfield: When did they pass such a silly law?
Adam Canfield: Yes.
Reggie Lampert: But you're divorced!
Adam Canfield: No...
Adam Canfield: My mother, she lives in Detriot, you'd like her, she'd like you too.
Reggie Lampert: Oh, I love you, Adam, Alex, Peter, Brian, whatever your name is, I love you! I hope we have a lot of boys and we can name them all after you!
So, with that in mind, I am going to try again with a new format. My life. Not just online dating, because really, there is just not enough content there. No, beyond that. Especially beyond that. Life beyond a significant other is especially important for me since I am lacking one. I firmly believe my life is complete just the way it is, so why not write about all the great things I DO have rather than that one illusive thing I am (by most standards) missing.
So here we go again ..
Starting today rather than on January 1 because that feels like too much pressure.
Monday, March 1, 2010
Additionally, today i had matches from two guys who clearly said that they were not interested in paying for the site but to reach out if you wanted to get to know them outside of it. Ummm, what? So you don't want to pay, but it is okay if i do? Nope, that is not the way this works.
As of this evening i am in open communication with 14 guys ... some of these conversations are just getting a bit long. I mean, two or three messages back and forth max, then let's just meet! If we keep talking through email there will be nothing left to cover when/if we actually meet.
Thursday, February 25, 2010
P.S. I don't like hugging after the first date. What is that?
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Monday, February 22, 2010
- What are the three best traits you have to offer a partner?
- What is an interest you hope you can share with your partner?
- What are you most proud of what?
- What is the most spontaneous thing you have done?
- What is your "simple pleasure" in life?
- If you had three wishes, what would they be?
Really though, when you are answering 5 matches questions a day ... times 3 questions each ... it gets long! Who has that kind of time!
Saturday, February 20, 2010
Honestly, the task of actually keeping up with the communications online takes up much more time than one would have imagined.
I guess my original thought was that I would go online, find some nice guys, meet them, and there you go ... online dating. But no, it is more complicated. Steps of communication take time. Then you get open communication and you spend days, or even weeks, just bouncing back "get to know you" emails. Then, maybe, you actually meet. Then what happens? Who knows.
So how is it going? Good ... to some extent. Have met a number of men and am communicating with them, but have only actually gone out with two of them. It is nice though to get out on the date and know you have at least some things in common and will have topics of conversation. Sometimes though it can still be rather frustrating. Most of these guys are really nice and we share interests, but they are generally still good little home-grown midwestern boys. I am looking for something a little bit more, some excitement ... some spark. Is that too much to ask for?
(Stuck in a moment)
Listening to: Lene Marlin
Watching: The Last Emperor of China
Reading: Jane Austen
Feeling: tired ... cold fresh air all day will do that
Thinking: that weekends are too short
Happy: because May will be funExcited: for life
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
A few observations thus far of the online dating process:
- many guys have pictures with their friends as the profile pic ... what? you have zero photos of yourself by yourself?
- and what is with the picture of you with a random girl who could be your ex? how about at least cropping her out?
- other popular photo companions include babies and/or small children as well as small dogs. is that supposed to make girls say "ahhhh ... how cute"? well ... not this girl ...
- another popular photo subject - wedding shots. "my buddies wedding". great, is that supposed to show me you are ready to commit? cause all i see is that you look funny in a tux ... like you are going to your senior prom
- under no circumstances can "beer pong" be considered a "passion in life"
- dido Guitar Hero
- and let's define "likes to travel" ... "travel" does not mean going up north to the family cabin. no.
- please don't use the word "cuddle" around me ... especially in response to the question "what is an interest you would hope you could share with your partner."
Monday, January 25, 2010
Not a good start to this blogging thing. Start, post for a week, then stop for two. Yikes! In my own defense, I was on holiday traveling, then I was sick, then I had to catch up on work.
Now that all of those are done, back to online dating. Today I went through 38 (!!!) matches and made communicate or close decisions. I check my new matches daily and if I feel really strongly either way, I will take action right then and there. Most of the time however I am on the fence. There is nothing that is an instant click, but there is nothing really “wrong” either. So I leave them open and wait to see what the guy does. Getting a bit frustrated with this however, because I do not feel like the guys take any action at all! Maybe that is how it gets to be after a few months. But for me, I am committed, respond!
22 guys in some level of communication. Only one in open communication – the British guy. The first one I got there with and have sent two messages with no response. Sad. I think I may have been too forward with the open ended questions – way too long of answers. Since then I have done a few more of those and standard answers are only one or two sentences long. Oops. I think I scared him off which is really disappointing.
There is another guy who am just now reaching open communication with. We shall nickname him “55 country guy.” He seems interesting … but we’ll see. Open communication to come from him first.
So … um … when do that actual dates start? For $200 I expect a few dates …
(Stuck in a moment)
Listening to: Naïve by Lily Allen
Watching: Kuch Naa Kaho
Reading: Vampire Diaries (I know, I know)
Feeling: like I messed up with that first guy
Thinking: that a third message would just appear desperate
Happy: because work is calm right now
Excited: for the thought of more traveling!
Thursday, January 7, 2010
On another note, it is kind of strange the feeling you get when a match "closes" the match. In other words ... they are not interested. A) I have never met them, B) most likely I would not have been interested given that we probably did not have too much in common and C) this is the internet! Yet somehow, every time i see a match closed, i feel a stab of rejection. Weird feeling ...
(Stuck in a moment)
- Listening to: The Show - Lenka ... and Young Folks - Peter Bjorn And John
- Watching: Angus, Thongs and Perfect Snogging
- Feeling: a bit confused
- Thinking: that she is very grateful for all she has
- Happy: because life is pretty darn good
- Excited: to have my work email inbox down to only 6 messages! crazy!
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
(Stuck in a moment)
- Listening to: Don't Forget Me - Way Out West
- Watching: Angus, Thongs and Perfect Snogging
- Feeling: that i got my bangs cut a bit too short today
- Thinking: that this online dating thing may be worth it
- Happy: that his answers were so good
- Excited: for Thursday
Monday, January 4, 2010
- Another big NO! Quote from profile: "I'm a 420 smoker, which I only bring up because it seems to be a "deal breaker" with some women." At least he is honest.
- boring profile, ok photo, but he asked to communicate with me ... so why not ... communication open.
- wow ... and NO! Quote ... he is thankful for: "The opportunity to live for a transient sliver of time and the myriad biological and environmental phenomena required to elicit such an invaluable gift."
- fantasy football?!?!? no
- maybe ... leaving it till tomorrow
(Stuck in a Moment)
- Listening to: No Sound but the Wind - The Editors
- Watching: Gossip Girl
- Feeling: like the right side of my mouth is enormous and drooling
- Thinking: that getting cavities filled is really really horrible
- Happy: that my washing machine was fixable
- Excited: for beer, sausages, and kartofensalat
Sunday, January 3, 2010
First ... eHarmony
It was actually my mom who told me to try eHarmony. She had seen a commercial that said you could communicate for free for five days last week (whatever that means). Since this meant I could actually try out the services without committing to a long term contract and big dollar amount - my big fear in all this - I said "why not?"
Completed the registration process rather quickly - at this point, since this was the first time, it was kind of a novelty. Lots of questions about my habits and what I would want in a partner. Also lots of questions meant to delve deep into who I "really" am in order to match me to that perfect (haha) someone out there. Sigh.
As soon as the registration process was complete and I filled out my About Me section (open ended statements - the first impression matches have of you) i got my first five matches. Turns out that eHarmony puts you through a guided communication process. Sitll unsure what this really is since I have not done it, but looks like it is back and forth questions with potential matches to get you better aquainted before full Open Communication. Read the five matches - shot 4 of them down pretty much automatically. Here is one little catch with their "communicate for free" promtotion - only paying site users can access photos. So - they can see my pics, but I cannot see theres. That sucks - but in a way, maybe it is good. Focus on their statements rather than their faces.
BUT ... there was one guy that sounded really great. Even without a photo, he sounded good looking (haha, that sounds strange). His answers were honest yet witty and we seemed to have some things in common. Looks like he is actually from Europe - as I am - which means that maybe he is different from all these home-grown midwestern boys I have nothing in common with. To be frank, he appears to be British, and I happen to have a *little* something for British accents (like all girls). Anway, HE actually opened communication with me. First stage was him asking me 5 multiple choice questions. I answered and replied with my five.
Cost is pretty high - we are talking $200-$300 for a 6-12 month membership, and that has to be paid in full right away. Ouch.
So far eHarmony is my top choice because of the one potential match ... with a British accent.
Second ... Chemistry ...
My parents were actually over yesterday and I was showing my mom how eHarmony worked. She suggested I try out another site too just to see if i like it better. So we logged onto Chemistry.com and began the process all over again. Never smoke, love to travel, don't have kids, blah blah blah. Most personality questions of course. These ones were different than eHarmony and actually I thought more challenging. Those types that you have to click either agree or disagree. I am sitting here like "well, sometimes, i agree, but sometimes i disgree" ... grrr!!!
Anyway, Chemistry gave me 10 matches instantly for free. At this point my dad was also interested and hovering over my sholder in the office. One fun thing about Chermisty is that each person is given a personality descriptor:
I am an explorer. Each of you match is identified with their tag and it tells you which is best for you, etc. Anyway. On Chemistry you can see their photos, and I hate to say it, but we actually laughed at some of the poor guys and never even got around to reading anything about them before closing the match. Sorry! Chemisty also has these labels (one liners) that you see first. Some of them are just so laughable: looking for my partner in crime; how you doin'? (you are not Joey).
And finally ... Match!
This is the site my friend had used and actually found someone thru. I started signed up, but by now I was just exhausted by all the questions. Additionally, I was unsure what Match had to offer over Chemistry and eHarmony. In fact, I think it had less to offer as I don't think it matches as much on personality traits/characteristics. It was also the cheapest at only like $100 for 6 months. But do you go for cost savings? Or substances? They started sending my matches instantly and I was a little turned off by the fact that people did not use real names on Match, but rather screennames. I don't like that - does not feel real or serious. I am just unsure how they make their matches I think Match is out for now, but they did send me a code good for 72 hours free full access to all their services (good until the end of 2010) so I am going to save that maybe give it a go later on.
And the winner is ... eHarmony.
And I am not even talking about starting this blog! With the new year begun I decided to start a new chapter of my life and do a little experiment. Although I still have some reservations, my credit card number has been provided and the money has been paid - I have a 12 month subscription to an online dating site. Never thought it would happen, yet here I am. As I said, money has (so to speak) exchanged hands.
So I figured. If I am going to do this, let's do it right. Find the right site, commit to this little social experiment, and document that next 12 months and all it will bring.
Today, both accounts were activated. Tomorrow .... well, we'll see what that brings.