Thursday, February 25, 2010

why do i feel like the roles are reversed?

Another date this evening - new guy. So so. We did not really have that much in common, but that does not mean anything automatically I guess. Opposites attract - or so I am told.

P.S. I don't like hugging after the first date. What is that?

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

i'm just sayin'

It is not necessary (or preferred) for you to tell me your entire life story in the first email.

I'm just sayin' ...

Monday, February 22, 2010

assembly line online dating

The third stage of communication in eHarmony are three open ended questions that you get to choose from a data bank (or make up your own). They are things like:
  • What are the three best traits you have to offer a partner?
  • What is an interest you hope you can share with your partner?
  • What are you most proud of what?
  • What is the most spontaneous thing you have done?
  • What is your "simple pleasure" in life?
  • If you had three wishes, what would they be?
  • etc.
Well ... what I ahve come to realize is that most people pose the exact same questions, but it gets rather tiresome answering the same thing over and over with the same answer. So I developed a nice assembly line method. Started a word doc and put in all the questions and answers I had so far, then each time I answer a new one, i add it it the list. So now i have a nice data bank of answers to the data bank questions. HA!!!

Really though, when you are answering 5 matches questions a day ... times 3 questions each ... it gets long! Who has that kind of time!

Saturday, February 20, 2010

perhaps i should write more often

Well, another few week has passed and yet again I have failed to be better at writing more often.
Honestly, the task of actually keeping up with the communications online takes up much more time than one would have imagined.

I guess my original thought was that I would go online, find some nice guys, meet them, and there you go ... online dating. But no, it is more complicated. Steps of communication take time. Then you get open communication and you spend days, or even weeks, just bouncing back "get to know you" emails. Then, maybe, you actually meet. Then what happens? Who knows.

So how is it going? Good ... to some extent. Have met a number of men and am communicating with them, but have only actually gone out with two of them. It is nice though to get out on the date and know you have at least some things in common and will have topics of conversation. Sometimes though it can still be rather frustrating. Most of these guys are really nice and we share interests, but they are generally still good little home-grown midwestern boys. I am looking for something a little bit more, some excitement ... some spark. Is that too much to ask for?

(Stuck in a moment)

Listening to: Lene Marlin

Watching: The Last Emperor of China

Reading: Jane Austen

Feeling: tired ... cold fresh air all day will do that

Thinking: that weekends are too short

Happy: because May will be fun

Excited: for life
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